Feel Your Best Tip: Meditate. Now!
7/27/16 — By this point, you probably already know that meditation is “good for you.”
Benefits include everything from a clearer mind, to better sleep, to enhanced immunity… reduced signs of aging… the list is long and impressive!
But perhaps you feel like it’s hard to find the time?
Well right here, right now, let’s take 5 minutes. Follow the guided meditation in this video clip:
Feel Your Best Tip: A Diet that Works For You
7/19/16 — Do you ever feel unsure about what you “should” or “shouldn’t” be eating? There’s a ton of conflicting information when it comes to food!
People ask me all the time if I’m gluten free, dairy free, caffeine free, vegan, vegetarian, sober, etc. They’ve often read articles or seen TV segments that make them feel like they should cut certain things out.
To these questions, I always say the same thing. I think it’s really important is that we consciously make our own choices based on what feels right in our own bodies, not what other sources say or do.
We’re all different. Our bodies, histories, and even climates often vary. There is no one-size-fits-all way to eat, or live.
On the other hand, I believe that as we each get present in our bodies and aware of how we feel, we gain authentic knowledge that helps naturally move us toward healthy choices in our own diets and lives overall.
So this is my approach. I don’t swear anything off. My focus is on staying connected.
If you want some guidance on how to move in this direction, check out my book Nourishing Your Whole Self: A Cookbook with Feelings (which also has some of my favorite easy, tasty recipes) and my guided meditation album (both are on Amazon). Try a yoga or meditation class too.
This stuff really helps me. See how that makes you feel!
Feel Your Best Tip: How to Make an Intuitive Decision
6/12/16 — You know those moments where you feel stuck, and you just don’t know how to proceed? Today I have four tricks for tuning in to our gut sense to make decisions that are aligned with intuition.
First: write. It’s amazing, sometimes I feel too lazy to do this, but when I actually start to journal, the answer that I’m looking for tends to show up on the page. While writing, I often arrive at exactly what I need to know.
Second: sleep on it. It’s easy to get impatient, but perspective changes when we take a step back and get some rest. Also, disengaging gives a deeper part of our brains a chance to bring the solution to our attention.
Third: see how your body feels. If that’s new for you, a great trick is to flip a coin. Your answer isn’t necessarily what you assigned to be heads verses tails. Your answer is in your immediate reaction to the coin’s solution. Notice if you feel dread, or relief, or perhaps a zing of excitement! If it’s some semblance of a positive reaction, consider moving that way. If it’s the opposite…well, that’s an answer too.
And finally: move. Get your blood flowing. Take a walk. Do some yoga. Go to the gym. Whatever! Everything happens on multiple levels, so when we shake stuff up in a physical way, we move and dislodge mental and emotional barriers to clarity as well.
If at the end of the day, you do all this and you still don’t know what to do, that’s okay. Give it time. From what I’ve seen, the answer always comes when we’re ready.
Feel Your Best Tip: This is Like Medicine For Me
6/5/16 — Today’s tip is a little dirty, but I swear by this.
We all know that exercise is good for us, and it ultimately makes us feel healthy and strong. Well I’m taking that one step further. To really feel vibrant, powerful, and like the best version of yourself… sweat!
I’ve read that when we sweat we release toxins—that everything from impurities in our skin, to junk in our lymph systems, liver, blood, etc., get pushed out.
That all makes sense to me, but all I can really speak to is what I know for sure: a juicy sweat lifts my mood and rejuvenates me. Every time. As sweat drips from me, tension, frustration, and stress are washed away.
I highly recommend hot yoga classes, but any fitness activity that makes you perspire will do.
If you never sweat, start with a short, brisk walk, and build up. Know your limitations (if you don’t run very often, don’t lace up for a jog when it’s 95 degrees). Be smart! Drink lots of water too.
Working up a sweat can be uncomfortable, but it’s very rewarding. Tell me how it makes you feel.
Feel Your Best Tip: Stop Being Busy
6/27/16 — Busyness implies running around and leading a hectic life where we’re constantly exhausted from all the things that we don’t really want to be doing (because if we wanted to do them, we wouldn’t be “busy,” we’d be “great!”).
I started thinking about this earlier in the week after a conversation with my dad about a really hilly bike ride he had been on the night before. He told me about how the group of bikers stopped at the top of one of the hills. They were standing there for a couple of minutes. Suddenly one of the men collapsed. He had a heart attack, and he didn’t make it.
Later that day, after talking with my dad, I caught myself frantically thinking about all the things I “had to do,” and it struck me that my epic to-do list makes me lose perspective of how precious life is, and how it’s not in my control. If we do only get this one life, I want it to be great, not busy.
So for one, I’m going to stop saying “I’m busy.” Words are powerful. Whatever we say after “I am” creates, so I’m not going to use the b word, which only seems to create stress, irritability, and exhaustion.
I’m also going to start considering what’s essential in my life, and what I can let go of.
And one more thing. All this is ultimately in the name of appreciating life, and there is always time for that. I invite you to start this with me right now. Appreciate something in this very moment.
Let’s see how all that makes us feel.
Feel Your Best Tip: Break a Bad Habit
6/22/16 — What habits are causing you pain? It could be smoking, procrastinating, nagging, or even slouching!
Maybe destructive thinking: “I’m so fat…,” “I’m not good enough…,” “I’m not as ______ as _______ …,” the possibilities are frighteningly endless.
For me, a big one (right now) is being impatient. I’m laid back about a lot of things but when really I want something, I want it now, otherwise I’m frustrated, anxious and generally pissed off.
To break habits like this, Ana Forrest, a world-renowned yoga teacher, has a “Formula for Change” that I think is really powerful.
The first step is to catch yourself in the behavior.
Then, instead of punishing yourself (which we often do) with thoughts like “I have no self-control…” “I effed up again…” “why do I even bother…”, AND instead of justifying the behavior, take a handful deep breaks. You may even change your physical posture to reiterate this manner of switching gears.
Step three: congratulate yourself for making it to step three! Give yourself a mental high five or even a physical hug. Say good job to yourself, and perhaps find other healthy, creative ways to celebrate your mindfulness as well. You could go for a walk, give yourself a massage, or even book a massage!
The fourth step is to choose a different path: now that you’re in the moment, you’ve taken the breaths, and you’re in an affirmative frame of mind, you might compliment someone instead of nagging, for example.
In the course of this compassionate self-discipline, start to ask yourself what could underlie the habit and pain it’s associated with. Over time, that inquiry can lead to a whole new dimension of habit-breaking, and transformation.