Feel Your Best Tip: Change Your Focus, Change Your Life
2/14/17 — Here’s a challenge I’m working on myself. I’d love for you to join in. For at least the next week, whenever you complain, say something you’re grateful for too. Feel for relaxing in your body as you do that.
It’s human nature to focus on our problems, but for every one thing that’s wrong, millions of things are right.
I’m not saying we should deny legitimate issues or sweep things under the rug. This is about being mindful of our thoughts and accountable for our own happiness.
What we focus on expands. The more we pay attention to what’s good, the more good we see and experience.
This isn’t easy. It takes a serious commitment! But it is an active way of releasing negativity and reorienting our focus so that the things we’re grateful for are what expand.
Let’s give it a whirl.
Feel Your Best Tip: How to Feel Empowered and Initiate Change
1/31/17 — A few years ago, I was in a rough place. My ten-year relationship was ending for reasons that I couldn’t really understand, and I was heartbroken. I couldn’t see a clear path forward and I didn’t know what to do.
So I prayed for help and started taking one step at a time.
That turned into taking on anything I could think of that might possibly help me feel better— not alcohol and anti-depressants, but things like yoga classes and therapy and insisting that conversations about my situation were positive and productive.
I often didn’t feel like doing any of this stuff in the moment, but I knew that ultimately, it could only help. And it did.
Over time, I started to heal and grow stronger than I knew I could be. It made me feel empowered to affect my own life. The change that’s happened since then has been extraordinary.
I bring this up now because many people are hurting and it can be hard to know what to do.
My thought—just like I did during that painful time personally—do anything you can. You don’t need to see a crisp path forward or know how to fix everything at once. Just take one step at a time. Do every seemingly small thing you can think to do.
Maybe it’s posting an inspirational blog. Maybe it’s speaking out. Maybe it’s going out of your way to show goodness to someone different from you.
It might not be obvious how a bunch of small, scattered action steps make a big difference. But they do. In my experience, this is a pathway toward healing, and so much more.
Feel Your Best Tip: A Trick to Fall Asleep
11/2/16 — This technique is like medicine. Instead of getting frustrated when you can’t fall asleep, do this.
- Deepen your breath
- Inhale a little bit, and hold
- Inhale a little more, and hold again
- Inhale and totally fill your lungs…
- Slowly, with control, exhale; release every last last drop of air
Do all this through your nose and after a few rounds return to normal breath. It works wonders.
Try this whenever you’re tossing and turning and your mind won’t stop. It’ll help you settle down and let go of whatever you’re holding onto. It’s helped me many times. See how it makes you feel!
Feel Your Best Tip: What Your Breath Says About You
10/17/16 — Allow yourself to sit still and notice the natural rhythm of your breath. Pay attention to the quality of your inhales and exhales. Does one part of your breath seem fuller than the other? Does one part come more naturally?
If your exhale is more pronounced and it’s more challenging to breath in, you may be giving away too much energy, pushing yourself, or not letting yourself receive. If any of that’s the case, consider taking time to rest and do things that refresh you! Also be conscious of letting yourself receive.
If your inhale is more pronounced, you may be holding energy in or closing yourself off. It can indicate holding yourself back. Lengthening your exhales and feeling sensations in your lower body (particularly your connection with the floor) can help you feel more grounded and safe to open up.
I hope this provides you some helpful insight!
Feel Your Best Tip: Start Your Day Right
9/28/16 — I wish I could say that I wake up every morning feeling bubbly and ready to go. That’s not the case.
Many mornings I feel a bit overwhelmed, anxious, or just tired. While I’m working on some adjustments so this isn’t the case, here are some things that help in the meantime. I hope they serve you too.
First, mindfulness. I notice those feelings, take a deep breath, and feel into and relax my body. I don’t try to push those feelings away. I accept them without collapsing into them, and they tend to naturally fade away.
There are other things that help in this process too.
- I make my first conscious thoughts of the day things that I’m grateful for. I believe the percentage of time we spend feeling grateful is the percentage of time we will be happy.
- Lemon water. Before I put anything into my body, I have a mug of warm water with the juice of about half of a lemon squeezed in. This is awakening, alkalizing, cleansing, hydrating, and refreshing. Drink it without food. It jump-starts metabolism and your digestive system going. I’m not anti-coffee, I just say have this first.
See how all that morning goodness makes you feel.
Feel Your Best Tip: How to Move “Bad Energy” Out of You
9/13/16 — Today’s tip is for when you get cut off, someone irritates you, you’re feeling self-conscious, or anytime you’re generally bothered in any way.
When any of that shit happens, take a step back, almost like you’re stepping outside of yourself, notice the narrative in your mind and how the experience feels inside you. Simply observe.
I was frustrated after an argument recently when I remembered to do this. I noticed that my whole body was super tense. It felt like I was tightly holding onto something (which was interesting because I was definitely clinging to one little thing in my mind too!).
So I noticed that, I took a deep breath, and I let my body relax. My face un-crunched. My shoulders came down. I was still annoyed, but I was relaxing with that.
This isn’t easy to do in the heat of the moment. But when I do step back and soften in my body, I become less resistant to the energy of the moment so it moves through me more fluidly. It’s not comfortable, but it helps me accept what’s going on and viscerally let go.
Instead of closing-off, feeling and releasing helps us to genuinely move on without residual tension weighing us down.
I learn something about myself every time I do this. It also makes me feel clearer, lighter, and even proud of myself! See how that makes you feel.