What’s a Positivity Diet?

What’s a Positivity Diet?

3/7/16 — The idea of the “positivity diet” was something that I started thinking about after two things happened.

First, my fiancé was getting ready to leave for a business trip, and for a few days leading into it I was totally bummed out. I was barely able to enjoy his company because I was so caught up in the anticipation of our distance.

Second, beer and bar food summed up my Saturday night.

The short of it is that I find it’s frighteningly easy—and probably human nature—to dwell on the negatives.

In diets, we often obsess, and crucify ourselves, over all the things we “shouldn’t” be eating. In rich moments with loved ones, we/I all-too-easily focus on lack and being without.

So I’d like to try something different.

For food, instead of dwelling on all the stuff I shouldn’t eat, I want to emphasize bringing more good stuff in.

I want to weave more fruits and veggies into my diet, and I want to be playful and creative with it. No pressure; it can be a fun challenge! One recipe in my cookbook is for brownies with zucchini. I’m also going to play with more interesting combinations in salads, sandwiches, and more.

To my other point, about fantasies of lack, I was very aware of the funk I was in before my fiancé left. What helped was saying short prayers asking for help, and indicating that I was willing to see things differently. I would like to keep doing that, and build on it by including a ‘thank you’ in those prayers too.

Basically whenever I’m about to complain about something, I’d like to either replace that negativity, or at least supplement it, with gratitude.

The idea is to fill ourselves up with good stuff of all kinds—from fruits and veggies to loving thoughts. I’m thinking that will leave less room for crap within us, and it’ll help us bounce back faster when we inevitably do go into a dark place of some form or another from time to time.

So try this with me! Let’s eat up the good stuff; let’s dwell on that!

I think it could be pretty sweet.

Chili…That’ll Make You Feel Peaceful

Chili…That’ll Make You Feel Peaceful

3/2/16 — This dish is full of healthy, all-natural ingredients. With veggies, lean protein, and lots of spice, I find that it fills me up without weighing me down. It’s in the Peaceful section of Nourishing Your Whole Self: A Cookbook with Feelings, and it’s great for this time of year!

  • 1 tbsp. olive oil
  • 1 large onion, diced
  • 6 garlic cloves, mined
  • 1 red bell pepper, diced
  • Salt
  • 1 lb. ground turkey
  • 2 (14.5 oz) cans diced tomatoes
  • 2 tbsp. tomato paste
  • 1 can kidney beans, rinsed and drained
  • 1 can black beans, rinsed and drained
  • 2 tsp. ground cumin
  • 2 tbsp. chili powder
  • 1/2 tsp. oregano
  • 1/2 tsp. cayenne (or less to taste)
  • Shredded cheddar cheese
  • 1 avocado, peeled and chopped
  • 1/4 cup chopped cilantro
  • Jalapeno slices

Heat the oil in a large pot/skillet over medium heat. Add the onion, garlic, red pepper, and a few sprinkles of salt to taste. Cook for about 10 minutes, and then add the turkey. Cook for 5 minutes more, stirring often, until brown.

Stir in the diced tomatoes and tomato paste. Add the beans, cumin, chili powder, oregano, and cayenne. Bring the mixture to a boil. Reduce heat, cover, and simmer for 30 minutes, stirring occasionally. Add salt to taste.

For best results, make the chili a day or two in advance so the flavors can meld. Refrigerate and then reheat to serve. Top each serving with cheese, avocados, cilantro, and jalapenos.

Serves 4-6.

How to Manifest Your Dreams

How to Manifest Your Dreams

2/22/16 — I did a workshop over the weekend about manifesting.

That’s kind of a buzzword right now, but the idea is simple—our thoughts and energy show up. They manifest.

The state of our lives is a reflection of what’s going on within.

As a general rule, for a beautiful, loving life, in every situation ask yourself “what would love do?” You can’t go wrong with that.

In this video I explain how you can more specifically manifest a life you love.

Try a New Fruit

Try a New Fruit

2/15/16 — I just got back from Brazil, and I’m having tropical fruit withdrawals.

I know, cry me a river, but seriously, the produce down there was nothing short of fantastic. Not only were the mangoes and papayas to die for, I also discovered some mouthwatering new stuff. Have you ever had a sugar apple? It’s that green one.


Sugar apples are admittedly a little annoying to eat (they have a lot of seeds that you’ve got to spit out), but they’re worth the work. 

Acai and starfruit are pretty incredible too.


I share this because it inspired me to search for more than just apples and bananas today when I went shopping. One of my purchases is this orange guy—a persimmon—which I’m not really sure how to eat, but one way or another is going to be good.


As it turns out, most grocery stores do have at least a few “fancy” fruits, and specialty stores have even more. My fiance and I like to stop at the Asian market from time to time to buy different varieties of produce (if you go to the right place, it can be super cheap).

So join me and try something new! Whether you venture to an ethnic market or just look around for something you’ve never tried before at your local grocer, let’s be daring together. You may have to google how to eat whatever you pick up, but it’s a playful way to step out of your comfort zone and the net effect of that can be—literally—delicious!

A Plea for Real Connection on Social Media

A Plea for Real Connection on Social Media

2/2/16 — One of the things I don’t like about social media is that it can be a platform of perfection.

We’re all naturally inclined to share content that shows us in our very best light. On one hand there’s something to appreciate about that—sharing things we’re proud of is beautiful!

But when only share that stuff, it creates a false “perfect” reality. To be clear, I’m not pointing fingers. I do this.

And, I find that even when I’m in a happy place, scrolling through peoples’ feeds can make me feel oddly stalkerish, judgmental, and small. When I’m not in a good place, forget it.

This doesn’t mean I think we should start unleashing our inner demons on Facebook, or stop sharing the good stuff. But it has made me realize that there’s probably room for me at least to be more open and honest in what I post.

So instead of getting all dolled up for today’s video, I’m showing up the way I often look when I’m at home writing. I’m not wearing makeup, and I haven’t brushed my hair.  I still haven’t showered from yoga, and while I obviously like cleaning up and looking nice (that’s real too), this is the way I look quite often. Not my best.

By sharing this, I hope to contribute to making social media more real (and less destructive), and I hope to connect with you. I definitely feel exposed, but it’s said that vulnerability is crucial for genuine connection, and genuine connection is what gives our lives meaning and joy! More and more, genuine connection is the essence of what I want in life–in social media too.

So while we may or may not be real-life friends, I hope this helps you see me. I would like to see you too. Through this incredible platform we can uplift, inspire, and add joy and meaning to each others’ lives from a world away! (It was actually someone else’s post–who I don’t even know–this inspired this!)

Tell me what you think. I can speak from experience that being real isn’t comfortablebut maybe if we all release some of our image consciousness, an ironically more perfect world will appear.

Stop Getting in Your Own Way

How To Get Out of Our Own Way

1/27/16 — A major barrier to feeling like the best version of ourselves is that we tend to get in our own way!

I study a spiritual text called A Course in Miracles which is based on universal spiritual themes. A Course says that our highest potential—the best version of ourselves—is who we naturally are. It says that we were born with gifts…a purpose…perfectly whole… perfectly loving…meant to be happy, but we get in our own way.

We often block that divine potential because of the way we think.

A Course says there are two ways in which we can view the world—through love or fear. On the loving side we withhold judgement (which is inherently negative and erroneous because it’s based on veiled and limited perspectives), we see the glass as half full, and experience happiness and peace. On the fear side there’s judgement, anger, self-doubt, irritation, and all afflictive response. In any given situation we have a choice as to which lens to use, and that choice determines the trajectory of our lives.

A Course in Miracles says that every thought creates form on some level. Loving thoughts produce positive effects. They lead us toward that divine potential where relationships are healthy, we feel meaning, joy, purpose, etc. Fear-based thoughts manifest the other way.

So here’s how we can work with this.

Whenever anything comes up that ruffles your feathers, be mindful, and say to yourself “I am willing to see this differently.” Just that willingness starts to break down barriers and open our hearts; that willingness is a loving choice.

This is a simple point but it’s not easy (to remember or implement in the heat of the moment). It requires faith, but I find faith is always rewarded.

A Course says miraculous things can start to unfold as we move in this direction. I’d say that’s worth a try.